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[amberdreams]

Paul's mum died on Tuesday morning, 03:30. Paul's been ok, though sad, obviously. The last nearly two years have been really tough after her first stroke and then all the subsequent mini ones, and basically he's seen what was left of his mum gradually stripped away. So much so that death was really a relief. She was a fiercely independent and private person, and had she understood what was happening to her over this time, she'd have wanted it all to end. Now Paul is struggling with his younger brother, Tony (who still lives at home with their Dad), to get him to a) accept help when it's offered and b) to understand that Tony isn't the only one who wants to be active now in sorting stuff out. I guess Tony takes after their mum with that stubborn independent streak.

Other non significant news - fecking toothache! Had it for over a week and finally decided to see the dentist. So this morning (when it was, of course, not aching too badly) the dentist fixed on the offending tooth and has refilled it. The numbing is just wearing off and argh, raging bloody toothache again. So I've popped a couple of ibruprofen and topped it off with a paracetamol so I can eat my lunch. Hey ho. I hate my useless, cracked, overfilled teeth.

So yeah, that's it. Later today me and blackrabbit42 will be posting our joint written J2RB with the fabulous dollarformyname - I'm excited to read the final beta'd version and see all the art!

As an aside, is anyone else sick to the back teeth of seeing that effing Photobucket 3rd party hosting notice everywhere you go? I had an email from them the other day trying to persuade me to subscribe. If they'd delivered it personally I'd have been throwing rotten tomatoes at their representative before showing them the door. Even if they now reduced their stupid fee to a reasonable annual rate (like $10 pa) I'm so pissed off with them I'd tell them where to stuff their stupid site. Seeing those replacement 3rd party notices is like anti-marketing.

Comments

[harrigan.livejournal.com]

{{{hugs}}}

The last years of my mom's life were hard like this. It was a relief to her and the family when it was over, but it was still a very sad time. I was blessed with a very supportive family. Sending positive thoughts you way!

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

I'm glad your family was supportive - I have a friend who lived with and nursed her mum for many years without any support and it was a killer. Especially when her siblings popped up the minute her mum died, wanting the house etc. Yuck. Some families suck.

((((hugs you back))))

[madebyme-x.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear this. We went through a very similar situation with my Grandmother a few years ago, and I fully understand that feeling of relief when the cruelty of suffering is over. Take care *hugs*

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

It's one of those things many of us have to go through, it can't be helped. Sorry about your Gran, too. *hugs you back*

[dizzojay.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about Paul's Mum; even when someone has been declining for a long time, it's still a sad shock to see them finally go.
Thinking of you both xx

And yes Photobucket; they have ruined so many peoples' journals - I wouldn't use their rancid bug-infested site if they paid ME!

Sorry - somehow I missed your middle paragraph!! I hope the offending tooth feels better soon :(

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

yeah, flipping tooth. The dentist put a temporary filling in and it's still throbbing so unless it calms down soon I'll have to go back for a root fill and crown. Fun times.

[sw0rdy.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear your sad news hon. Hope you're both okay. <3

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

I'm ok; I felt like we lost her nearly two years ago when she had the first stroke, but Paul and his brother had been visiting her alternate days ever since and it's a big hole in their routines as well as their lives.

[jj1564.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about Paul's mum, please give him my sympathy. Even though she's been ill and fading for a long time, it's still sad when it happens, even when it's also a relief. I hope things with his brother can be worked out. And poor you with the toothache, I hope it settles down soon. If not, back to the dreaded dentist... *hugs*

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the condolences, I'll pass them on.

Went to the dentist yesterday and now have a temporary filling on top of a still-throbbing tooth. I'm hoping it will calm down very soon or I'll be back there for another root filling and crown. *sigh*

[hugemind.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about Paul's mum. *hugs* And I hope your tooth gets better.

Any older forum posts or suchlike and there the stupid pb notices are - they are super annoying but also a super efficient way to remind people what dickbags pb are.

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

I wonder how many users PB have lost as a result of this stupid policy.

[galwithglasses.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about Paul's mum. I remember when she had the first stroke and know it had been a rough couple of years for her. I wish you both some quiet moments of peace. I know you have both been dealing with loss. I hope the tooth feels better soon too.

I honestly have no idea what to do with my journal and all the bad photobucket links. Just about everything I ever posted that was SPN related was full of caps and they were the point of most of the entries. It's the bulk of my journal. I've been thinking about just going back and setting them to private. I would like to think that I would get to fixing them but I'm not invested in the show like I was and have ended up with a bunch of real life dumped on my plate so I don't really have the time to take to go back and unscramble the whole mess. I've been so bothered by the whole thing though, I haven't posted anything since it happened. I think I probably need to get over it and move on. I probably ought to find a meme and do an easy post just to get back in the saddle.

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

That sounds like a plan. It's a bloody shame to lose all the work you put in over the years (I really want to kick someone at PB, whoever had this not-so-bright idea), but I'm like you, I look at those posts and think - it's so much work to load those pics somewhere else and update all the links. For my art posts I think I'm just going to do it as and when I notice a post is full of those annoying messages.

But yes! Find a fun meme and post!

[blackrabbit42.livejournal.com]

My dearest. I am so sorry to hear this news, and astounded at your commitment to our story at such a hard time. Your flist should know that YOU did all the work finding a beta, editing, and posting the story, and that I merely vomited some words in your lap and asked you to make them palatable for the rest of the world. I hope I can make it up to you some day.

My most sincerest condolences.

<3

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

No no, you do yourself down - you have far more on your plate than I do. (((hugs)))

[kazluvsbooks.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear about your MIL ((Hugs your family))

I never want to see PB ever again *hisses in their direction*

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the hugs ♥

Yeah, I won't be sorry if PB goes bust after this shambles.

[fireheart13.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry about Paul's mum. Big hugs for you and him both.

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thank you me dear.

[herminekurotowa.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry about Paul's mum.

[sillie]

I'm so sorry to hear about your MIL *hugs*

Oh booh, hope your tooth will stop hurting soon. :/

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thanks, me dear. On both counts. ♥