Not so happy new year
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amberdreamsPaul's mum had a massive stroke yesterday and we are still waiting to find out exactly how bad it was. She's not conscious, has been intermittently responsive...She was due to have another CAT scan today, and Paul's gone over to find out how that went - if there is anyone on duty on New Year's Day who's qualified to read the scan, that is.I haven't been to visit her yet, being still full of this cold virus. Nobody on the stroke ward would be grateful for me spreading that around. Paul's sister is borderline hysterical but that is nothing new, so there's no discernable difference in her reactions now to everyday random shit - except now I'm glad to cut her some slack, as she has a real reason to be upset. Anyhow, she's driving down from Northumbria tomorrow, so I've got to do a massive tidy and clean up today to make room for her. Our spare bedroom acts as a kind of bed-wardrobe most of the time, so the bed is covered with a ton of clothing and towels and bedding that all needs to be put away. Luckily her obnoxious husband won't come with her unless she stays in a hotel, and staying in a hotel make no sense at all in these circumstances. She doesn't know how long she may want/need to be here for, and we DO have a spare room, even though our house is a tip. And I'm grateful he doesn't want to stay here any more as I don't think our spare bed or other furniture could take his weight - he's bloody enormous.
In the meantime, Paul's dad is most dischuffed. He's getting even less attention than he usually manages to muster up for all his ficticious illnesses, because his wife is actually seriously fucking ill. Paul went round yesterday and had to sit with his dad because he can't be left on his own - not because he actually needs someone there to look after him - he's perfectly fit and healthy for an 85 year old (apart from being overweight from refusing to move out of his chair 95% of the day). No, someone has to supervise him, because if he's left alone in the house he will deliberately find something to do that will either cause damage to their house in some way, or superficical damage to himself. For instance, he'll go into the kitchen and leave something boiling in a pan until it catches fire. Or he'll get up and fall over and pretend he cant get up.
He told Paul he couldn't pick things up at the moment because he's got broken fingers, and he can't walk because his toes are broken. He then managed, mysteriously, to get the phone and push the buttons to dial various of Mum's relatives to tell them she was in hospitial but he wasn't at all well himself, you know.
Paul's little brother (the 42 year old one) is now talking about taking a career break to be a full time carer and I'm screaming inside. Because great. Dad has managed to wear Mum down so her blood pressure had been all over the place and now she's had this stroke and even if she survives she's going to be in a hell of a state - and now Tony is going to give him a nice substitute to work on instead? FFS!!!!!
If anyone knows of treatments for Munchausen's, please let me know. Apart from getting a gun and shooting the bastard, that is.
Also all good thoughts, vibes, prayers for Paul's Mum are gratefully recieved because the prognosis is not looking good.
In the meantime, Paul's dad is most dischuffed. He's getting even less attention than he usually manages to muster up for all his ficticious illnesses, because his wife is actually seriously fucking ill. Paul went round yesterday and had to sit with his dad because he can't be left on his own - not because he actually needs someone there to look after him - he's perfectly fit and healthy for an 85 year old (apart from being overweight from refusing to move out of his chair 95% of the day). No, someone has to supervise him, because if he's left alone in the house he will deliberately find something to do that will either cause damage to their house in some way, or superficical damage to himself. For instance, he'll go into the kitchen and leave something boiling in a pan until it catches fire. Or he'll get up and fall over and pretend he cant get up.
He told Paul he couldn't pick things up at the moment because he's got broken fingers, and he can't walk because his toes are broken. He then managed, mysteriously, to get the phone and push the buttons to dial various of Mum's relatives to tell them she was in hospitial but he wasn't at all well himself, you know.
Paul's little brother (the 42 year old one) is now talking about taking a career break to be a full time carer and I'm screaming inside. Because great. Dad has managed to wear Mum down so her blood pressure had been all over the place and now she's had this stroke and even if she survives she's going to be in a hell of a state - and now Tony is going to give him a nice substitute to work on instead? FFS!!!!!
If anyone knows of treatments for Munchausen's, please let me know. Apart from getting a gun and shooting the bastard, that is.
Also all good thoughts, vibes, prayers for Paul's Mum are gratefully recieved because the prognosis is not looking good.
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Date: 2016-01-01 02:51 pm (UTC)Thanks for the good wishes, we need them.
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Date: 2016-01-01 04:34 pm (UTC)Hugging you and wishing the best for Paul's mum and you/your family.
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Date: 2016-01-01 05:10 pm (UTC)The rest....yikes! I hope Tony manages to hang on to his life??
Eek!!!!
*more hugs*
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Date: 2016-01-01 06:36 pm (UTC)I will keep Paul's mum in my thoughts and prayers as well as everyone involved.
*hugs* I hope you get better as well.
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Date: 2016-01-01 07:56 pm (UTC)Long distance hugs, if they'll help and you want them. And hopes your New Year gets better fast!
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Date: 2016-01-01 10:58 pm (UTC)Paul's Dad sounds like a piece of work; exactly what his Mum DOESN'T need to come home to when she's got to rest and concentrate on her own health.
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Date: 2016-01-01 11:17 pm (UTC)I'm sorry that this crap is happening to your family! (A gun was my first mental answer as well.)
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Date: 2016-01-02 06:48 am (UTC)*hugs* to you all
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Date: 2016-01-02 02:14 pm (UTC)The treatments for Paul's Dad - he won't ever admit he has it so it's not a case of 'waiting for him to ask for help' it's a case of getting him diagnosed first by an outside source, which I know you don't want to do because it will create merry hell!