Update - not dead yet

[amberdreams]

Dad's been getting unresponsive over the last two days and Mum just had a call from the consultant to say the pressure inside his head is building again - so obviously the bleed isn't healing on its own. We only have two choices -
leave it to run its course and see him progressively decline as the pressure on his brain increases - and we don't know what that would be like for him, but it would have to be pretty bloody scary if he's aware of what is going on, or
they will operate - which they say is high risk, especially as they might have to go in more than once.

Mum told them she thought he'd want to take the risk and I agree it's a risk that has to be taken. I have to say, it's Hobson's choice. If we leave it, he'll definitely die and it will be slow and sad and hard to watch. If we go the operation route, there is still a chance he will survive and be able to have a decent quality of life. I know what I'd want if that was me.

Mum's going back in to the hospital tomorrow morning at 8am to discuss it with the consultant, and then they will take him to Stoke for the operation, where they have a specialist unit.

Comments

[milly-gal.livejournal.com]

Oh hun I am so very sorry!!! I think in your place and your mamas place I'd choose the same option! I'm thinking of you all and sending all the vibes I can! <3 <3 <3

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thank you - I can't see what else we can do. At least with the op there's some hope.

[de-nugis.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry things aren't going well, but it certainly seems like you and your mother are making the right choice. I'll be thinking of you and sending good thoughts and wishes his way and yours.

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I appreciate it.

[septembers-coda.livejournal.com]

bb. :-( So sorry you're going through this. God how I feel for you. Such a tough choice, but I agree-- risky or not, I'd want to take the chance, and a quick end over a slow painful decline would be my choice ANY day-- for myself or a loved one. I know how scary this is for you and your mum. Thinking of you and sending love & all the luck in the world-- I hope the operation is a success.

[amberdreams.livejournal.com]

Thank you - this seems to be the only way.

[big-heart-june.livejournal.com]

Oh, bb, I'm so so sorry :(( I'd go for the operation too. sending all good thoughts, love, and healing vibes your way ♥ you and yours are in my thoughts ♥

[999alena.livejournal.com]

So sorry to hear this- My thoughts are with you all
and I hope that the surgery will prove successful

[yohkobennington.livejournal.com]

D: Crap. Sending your dad the best of wishes.

*hugs you* I'm so sorry hon.

[emmatheslayer.livejournal.com]

Sending good vibes high hopes and well wishes for your family

[anactoria.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about this -- it sounds like you're making the best choice, though. Sending *hugs* and good wishes your way. ♥

[jj1564.livejournal.com]

Oh no, I thought he was doing okay, what an awful shock for you and your mum. I think you're doing the right thing in going for the operation, as you say it's Hobson's Choice, but this seems the more hopeful option. Sending you and your mum and dad lots of love, positive vibes and big hugs xx

[sw0rdy.livejournal.com]

What a tough choice to have to make for you both. Hope all goes well with the op.

x

[sillie]

Oh I'm so sorry hun *hugs* Sending as many positive vibes your dads way.

[ramblin_rosie]

I was wondering just this morning how things were going. Sorry the news is what it is, and I'll definitely keep praying.

[freya922.livejournal.com]

Oh, Amber, I'm so sorry your family is going through this. It must be dreadfully hard for every one. :(

[souslelys.livejournal.com]

Such a difficult choice for both of you. I'm so sorry -hugs- I hope all the best with the operation and I'll be sending good thoughts your way.

[bflyw.livejournal.com]

Oh no, I am so sorry! Sending you all good thoughts, and I'll even throw in a little prayer for your dad in case someone is listening!
Lots and lots of hugs!

[deirdre-c.livejournal.com]

I am sending you so so many supportive hugs and all the kindest, most healing thoughts in your dad's direction. I hope that the outcome of the surgery is even better than you expect or hope for.

[sammycolt24.livejournal.com]

My thoughts are with you and your family.

[borgmama1of5.livejournal.com]

You and your family will be in my thoughts...Hug

[kalliel]

Oh oh oh. :( I think that you and your mother are making the right choice, too--even if there's a risk, it's one well worth taking. And from what I know about your dad, I think he'd be on broad with this plan, too. My prayers and wishes are with him and you and your family, nonstop. <33333 /hugs

[adrenalineshots.livejournal.com]

My thoughts are with you and your family. Hoping for good news soon <3

[galwithglasses.livejournal.com]

Hugs...what a tough spot to be in. Sounds like you and your Mom are doing the right thing though. I will keep you all in my thoughts.

[becc-j.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry to hear this. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

[blackrabbit42.livejournal.com]

Praying for strength for you and your mum, and for healing for your dad. My heart is in my throat.

(((hugs))))

[madebyme-x.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear the news. You and your parents are in my thoughts.x

[morganoconner.livejournal.com]

Oh, sweetie, I'm sending you and your family so many good thoughts and best wishes for things to go well. ♥

*all my hugs and snuggles*