amberdreams (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
amberdreams) wrote2016-08-08 02:42 pm
amberdreams) wrote2016-08-08 02:42 pm
Entry tags:
Fandom and friendships
The other day I had a little moan and whinge about stuff (Here).
One thing my little moment of childish weakness has taught me is that it's kind of shocking how many of us feel the same way! To quote/paraphrase kalliel, it seems that whole "why does everyone seems to be better friends with each other than they are with me? :( Or like, man, I wish people did X or Y thing, or felt moved to email me/message me/etc. the way they do with their other friends..." is a common niggle for a lot of us. Maybe it's a trait of an introverted personality? Because I know many of us are here on LJ or online because we have introvert tendencies.
But when I post that rather inarticulate grumble what happens? Everyone rallies round to show me just how silly I was being.
One thing my little moment of childish weakness has taught me is that it's kind of shocking how many of us feel the same way! To quote/paraphrase kalliel, it seems that whole "why does everyone seems to be better friends with each other than they are with me? :( Or like, man, I wish people did X or Y thing, or felt moved to email me/message me/etc. the way they do with their other friends..." is a common niggle for a lot of us. Maybe it's a trait of an introverted personality? Because I know many of us are here on LJ or online because we have introvert tendencies.
But when I post that rather inarticulate grumble what happens? Everyone rallies round to show me just how silly I was being.
I wonder whether we are all doomed to want to be closer to the people who are busy being close to someone else, just to be contrary. I do remember feeling exactly this way when I was at school too, and I'd love to know why the hell I never grew out of it!
And if I'm honest, I couldn't cope if loads of people suddenly decided to email me about stuff, I just wouldn't have time to deal with it! I have enough trouble as it is, trying to keep up with all the different communities and people on my Flist, and my other friends and family on Facebook and in real life. I wasn't made for having lots of friends, I'm used to having two or three at the most, and this (ok it's mostly virtual) is the largest group of friends I've ever had!
So really, I'm very grateful for each and every one of you. People here are so accepting and generous.
I'll apologise in advance if I ever miss a personal post of yours, but I do have an open door for PMs here if anyone does want to chat about stuff. I'm just hoping you won't all feel the need to message me at once LOL!
I'll apologise in advance if I ever miss a personal post of yours, but I do have an open door for PMs here if anyone does want to chat about stuff. I'm just hoping you won't all feel the need to message me at once LOL!